"In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." -Jack Kornfield
It's not always easy to "gracefully" let go of expectations, perspectives, beliefs, long-held dreams. But life has a way of stepping in, rearranging our well-laid out plans and thrusting us into new ways of thinking and being.
For me, 2013 has been quite the year with plenty of occasions to stretch beyond my comforts and grow in resilience and humility. Certain experiences caused me to question everything I have ever believed, deepening the lesson in S-U-R-R-E-N-D-E-R.
A friend once said that the only thing we can ever know for sure is that we exist, everything else is subject to experience. What I do know for sure is that no experience is ever permanent. Change is the nature of life. We are always in the process of growth and evolution, of letting go and rebuilding.
Still, we have to decide for ourselves to be an active participant in this evolutionary process. We have to be really honest with ourselves, ask for and accept guidance, practice self-compassion, being as gentle with ourselves as we are with others.
We have to be willing to let go of who we think we are in order to discover all of our untapped potential. We have to hold on to the essential pieces of ourselves, while releasing everything else that threatens to steal our joy and sense of purpose. We have to grieve our disappointments and unrealized dreams without allowing that grief to take over our life.
I've yet to master the art of letting go, but I'm working at it. I've learned to accept life's mysterious nature and to trust in the unfolding, realizing that sometimes there are no quick and easy answers to "how?", "when?" or "why?"
Follow your heart's dreams. Accept guidance. Take action. Then, let go. Let go of the fear of uncertainty. Surrender the outcome. Rest in the not knowing.
I honestly don't know. But I am looking forward to the unfolding of 2014. Thank you for accompanying me on this grand adventure.
Love and blessings,