Saturday, January 12, 2013

The Healing Power of Words

My daughter has beautiful curls and yet she has been teased for having “crazy hair.”  The first instance occurred while she was in second grade.  At first, I didn’t understand why this bothered her as much as it did.  She is often told by family members, friends and even strangers how beautiful her curls are.  One of her friends has the exact texture of hair.  When I asked her what she thought of her friend’s hair, she stated with excitement, “I love her hair.”  Still, this didn’t change the way she viewed her own.  Even though I would affirm that she is beautiful exactly as she is, while ensuring that her curls are kept manageable, she still had difficulty accepting my words.   I realized that she needed to affirm this for herself. 

“I love myself just the way I am” is the affirmation we learned from Louise Hay’s children’s book, “I Think, IAM!  My daughter would look into the mirror each morning and repeat this affirmation three times.  We also rehearsed how to respond to criticism with, “That’s okay if you don’t like my hair, I love myself just the way I am.”

Her experience with being teased also gave us an opportunity to discuss and celebrate all the ways in which we stand out from everyone else around us.  I was pleasantly surprised when the title of her very first biography was, “You Can Be Different and Still Be President.” She had chosen to write about President Obama who is also of mixed race.   I had suggested she include dream or dreams in the title, but she chose otherwise.

How we perceive ourselves plays a significant role in how we choose to live in this world.  It is important to recognize our inherent greatness.  The word inherent means “existing in someone as a natural and inseparable quality.”  By this definition, our greatness exists one hundred percent of the time, but we have to be the ones to see it.  I used to wish that I was the love child of a young romance.  I now accept that I am a love child of the universe and it lovingly supports me. 

It is no coincidence that based on astrology Louise Hay shares the same birth card as my mom, the Ace of Diamonds, which is The Love Card and that my inner being and the Source of all creation guided me to her healing words.  I love you.

In my experience, the two most powerful phrases in the universe are:

1.  I love myself just the way I am.
2.  I forgive myself

Love and Blessings to you,

Kathleen O'Malley


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