It is not always easy to accept that the journey has been exactly what it needed to be. An illness, the loss of a job or financial difficulties, the passing of a loved one, the end of a relationship, hearing of a tragedy or other injustice...these are all life experiences that threaten our ability to remain at peace and our continued trust in the flow of life.
Still, we all have the ability to take from life only what allows us to move forward and live our lives better and then empower others to do the same. We can choose to measure our loved one's life by the depth of our love for them and not by the length of their lives. We can choose to grow in acceptance and gratitude. Even when the acceptance doesn't come easily, we can at the very least, demonstrate our willingness to move forward. We can see how each person along our path has taught us necessary lessons, even if the lesson is how to forgive. We can emerge from painful circumstances with a greater sense of who we are and what we most want in this life. We can see each ending as an opportunity to start anew.
But, where do you begin? First, stop banging your head against a brick wall or whatever else numbs your pain. Self-inflicted pain does not ease the pain you are already experiencing. It's just a temporary distraction. Next, spend at least five minutes with yourself in prayer, meditation, journaling, walking, painting, in nature...any activity that leads you deeper within yourself and determine what it is that you truly want. Do you want to be in a relationship where you are loved and respected for who you truly are or do you just want someone to care for you? Is this job really what you love or does it afford you the lifestyle that your friends admire?
Feel and express gratitude for all that is good in your life. Say thank you. Then, ask for guidance from God, the Universe, or whatever higher power you believe in. You have to ask for what you truly want and then be open, surrendering to what life brings. Help may come in the form of a friend, a family member or even a stranger. And finally, give to others. Share your experience, what has been given to you, what you have learned. Giving opens you up to receiving even more.
But, what if it doesn't work? If you have already convinced yourself that it won't work, then it won't.
Trust the process. How do we truly know whether a decision is the right one until after the fact? If I had known then what I know know, seems to be a popular mantra these days. What we call mistakes are often necessary attempts at finding our way. We can't stumble unto the right path by simply standing still. Sometimes you just have to start walking in order to get to where you need to go.
Trust in the rhythm of the Universe. Everything you need will come in the right sequence and time.
Life's Messages : If it is time for you to receive what you have been hoping for, trust that it will happen. If the timing is still not right, learn the lessons along the way. Trust that no part of the journey is without purpose. -Messages from Within: Finding Meaning in Your Life Experiences
Love and Blessings,