First, why is this? Why are you faced with similar circumstances? Is it the familiarity and comfort of what is already known that reels you back in? Is the fear of change or fear or disappointment holding you back? Is there something else to be learned from this situation? What is the motivation for returning here? Is it based solely on your choices and actions or is it for the benefit of others? Are you constantly putting the needs of others before yourself? What else can you do in this situation that allows you to be most loving of yourself and more at peace? Who can you enlist to help you?
I recognize that I'm attempting to answer a question with a list of questions. But, these are important questions that we must ask of ourselves. We are the only ones to know what we are truly living. And when we take the time to understand our motivations, we can make decisions that are more aligned with what allows us to live our lives better and be more at peace.
Even when you are pulled back into the seemingly same circumstances,YOU are not exactly the same. If you truly pay attention, you will see that something within you has changed.
The Greek poet and novelist, Nikos Kazantzakis, once shared a story of the emergence of a butterfly. He was a young boy when he noticed a cocoon stuck to a tree, with a butterfly about to be born. The butterfly appeared to be struggling and the process seemed to be taking so long, so he decided to warm the cocoon with his breath. The butterfly finally emerged, but its wings were still stuck together and it died soon after.
We are very much like the butterly. We are beautiful beings. We yearn for our freedom and often desire to fly to great heights. Yet, our purpose is not to get through life by enduring as little pain as possible. It is often the struggles that allow us to know our own strengths.
There are some who believe that life has no meaning. Remember that you get to decide what you give meaning to. It's your life. Live like a butterfly.
"Since we cannot change reality, let us change the eyes which we see reality."-Nikos Kazantzakis
Love and Blessings,
Kathleen O'Malley, DC