It seems that so much of our lives are about "getting it right," "making a grade," "earning a place." We measure ourselves against Hollywood icons, our siblings, classmates or persons who appear to have it all together. We allow others to determine our self-worth. We hold on to the images of ourselves that others reflect back to us. We forget that each person is a beautiful creation with inborn gifts and abundant potential.
While we are more alike than we often realize, no two persons experience life precisely the same way. Even identical twins raised in the same environment have varied perceptions of the same situation and are unique in their thoughts and values. That's the beauty of the human experience...to share our lives, recognize our connectedness and still celebrate our uniqueness.
When we compare ourselves against others, we always come away feeling less than. We can't all be molecular physicists or star quarterbacks, but we can each be everything we were created to be. It's not about who makes the grandest gesture or greatest achievement. It's about uncovering who you really are at your core and using your own gifts for the benefit of those around you...someone in your own family, a neighbor, your own community. And, you don't have to be free of illness, flawless, at a set weight or have a college degree to make a difference in someone else's life. You only need to be YOU.
Stop waiting to be perfect. Being fully alive means that we are always in the state of learning, becoming and evolving. What might seem like an imperfection may turn out to be a mark of true beauty.
Love to you,
Kathleen O'Malley, DC
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