Thursday, July 9, 2015

The Pursuit of Peace

With all the unrest in the world today, where does one find a real sense of peace?

Being at peace does not mean to be void of conflict or challenge, but rather, it's a way of being...being slower to anger...being kinder with words...being gentler with yourself...

It is not only about the love we have for others or how much we are loved. We cannot be fully at peace without accepting all aspects of ourselves and embracing that person we see in the mirror...the one looking back at us who is deserving of our love and attention just as much as anyone else.
Peace is also about hope...recognizing that there are shades to life and even in the most dreadful hour, something good awaits.
And it's about Faith...not necessarily that our prayers will be answered exactly as we prayed them, but knowing that everything blends with and connects to everything else...that each person we meet holds another piece to this puzzle.
This awareness allows us to accept each day as it is, make choices that are aligned with the best in us, while being mindful of those around us. We don't have to worry so much about changing the opinions of others. 
How about we allow people to be as they are and turn our attentions inward, making sure that we are content with who we are and how we are choosing to live each day.
In the words of a nine-year-old girl named Maura, "I'd rather have Peace on Earth than pieces of Earth."  

Peace be with you,

Kathleen O'Malley, Author of Messages from Children and What They Can Teach Grown-Ups heart emoticon

Sunday, December 14, 2014

"Random" Kindness in Memory of Sandy Hook Elementary

About two weeks ago, I was on the receiving end of a random act of kindness in memory of Sandy Hook Elementary.  I had taken my daughter and her friend to Tilt Studio, a venue for laser tag and other games and attractions.

We had been there for about thirty minutes or so when a gentlemen approached us and handed us three Tilt Studio play cards attached to the note pictured below.

Daniel Barden was one of the young children whose life was lost on December 14, 2012.

I was in awe.  What this gentlemen could not have known is that I had intended to pay by credit card, but inadvertently left it at home.  Fortunately, I had just enough cash for the girls to play a game of laser tag and ride the Himalaya Bobsled, but was disappointed that we had driven all this way and couldn't spend the day as planned.

And here is this gentlemen providing us with even more than we needed to make our day an enjoyable one.

This random act of kindness did not feel so random.  It came at just the right time and I am still incredibly grateful.

As a friend recently said, "the size of the world shrinks with every act of kindness and grows in love."

May our world continue to grow in love and compassion through kindness.  May we replace memories of heartbreak and tragedy with hopefulness and inspired actions.

Blessings to you,

Kathleen Webster O'Malley

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

A Gift of Sight, a Ripple of Kindness...

A mom takes her eighteen month old foster child to have an eye exam.  The doctor comments that his vision is poor, but decides not to write a prescription for eyeglasses. The mom leaves the office with an unshakable sense that her foster child has been treated like a "second class citizen."  

While at another child's pediatrician, she recounts what happened with the eye doctor and the pediatrician agrees that she should receive a prescription if it is warranted.   

With persistence, this mom finally receives the prescription and takes it to be filled. This is when she learns that it is in fact a strong prescription, costly, but necessary to preserve the child's eyesight. 

Disheartened, she shares how the eye doctor had been reluctant to write a prescription.  Did this doctor assume she would not have the prescription filled because it was for a foster child?  No one can know for sure exactly what he was thinking.

However, the optician decides to perform an act of kindness, giving the gift of sight without charge. In this mom's words, "It felt like a hug from above."  Through this kind soul, God/Love/The Universe corrected an apparent wrong?

This mom also had the opportunity to spread this ripple of kindness, volunteering to bring meals to others in need.  Her GPS was being "finnicky,"  allowing her to only get to one address this particular day. But, as she found, she ended up exactly where she needed to be.  A family with a sick child requested that she pray with them.  She was happy to do so.

"Do not underestimate a moment of your kindness.  It has the power to change lives in ways you may never know."

--Anna Taylor

Love and blessings,

Kathleen O'Malley

Saturday, September 27, 2014

Be Brave, Fearless and Free

I read a post sometime ago where a man claimed that he was not afraid of anything? Is that humanly possible, I wondered...unless, he had no-one or nothing to lose.

Who among us has never been afraid?  Typically, we fear the unknown and what we don't understand. We fear being judged and misunderstood.  We fear pain in all its forms, homelessness and loneliness, illness, humiliation, rejection, loss and regret.

Be not afraid, we repeatedly hear.  But how does one become less afraid?  How does one truly become brave, fearless and free?

Keep in mind that fearlessness is not the complete absence of fear, but rather the ability to take action in spite of all that makes us afraid.  Freedom from fear is not won in a battle, for whatever we fight only grows stronger. True freedom comes when we decide to explore our limiting beliefs, face our fears and respond with a single act of bravery and then another, and then another.

We often think of fear as an alert to danger or a response to self-doubt.  But what if there is something else?  What if fear is truly meant to get our attention and awaken something greater within us?

Fear doesn't have to "shut" us down.  It can propel us into action.  Once we take action, fear begins to loosen its firm hold.  We gain greater strength, confidence and wisdom whenever we're able to move beyond something once feared.  We gain a sense of connection and greater support when overwhelming fear prompts us to ask for and accept help.  With every step forward, we become a little less fearful and a bit more free.

Unfortunately, some of us fear even our successes. "...It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us," says Marianne Williamson.

Why would anyone be afraid of their "light" and inherent greatness?  I suspect that we fear anything that makes us different.  Even though we each possess something great, it is expressed through each person differently.  Different isn't always met with approval. Different isn't always accepted.  Yet, it is our differences, that makes this human experience so amazing.

There is no greater act of courage or greater freedom than the decision to embrace all that makes you uniquely yourself, while choosing to accept others as they are.  And that's what we all want.  We all want and deserve to be free.

Love and blessings,

Kathleen O'Malley, Author

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

What Do We Know For Sure?

Mother Teresa once said, "If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other."  This quote echoed in me as I read the final chapters of Angela Mia White's book, From Sick to Bliss to Conversations with God.  With simplicity, honesty and humility, Angela shares her experience of healing from a devastating illness which caused her to question everything she had ever been taught to believe.  Her path of recovery also led to a heightened awareness of the interconnectedness of all creation and the ultimate message...We are all love.  

Finding feathers were significant to Angela's journey as they mysteriously appeared before her whenever she expressed a need for greater clarity of direction and purpose.

It amazes me how often I've come across feathers since reading about Angela's experience with them...from a conversation with someone about their dog whose name happens to be discovering a drawing my daughter made earlier this year.

I wondered how long before I would actually stumble upon a feather across my path.  It wasn't long...

A male friend once said, "The only thing we can know for sure is that we exist. Everything else is subject to experience."

What I am certain of is that we are all participants in one amazing story.  We become what we believe. We get what we're focused upon.  And as more of us "wake up to love" as Angela invites us to do, the world will know greater peace.

Click here to order your copy of From Sick to Bliss to Conversations with God.

Peace and love,

Kathleen O'Malley, Author

Saturday, August 9, 2014

'The Love of Thousands'

Walking, I am listening to a deeper way.  Suddenly all my ancestors are behind me.  Be still, they say.  Watch and listen.  you are the result of the love of thousands.--Linda Hogan 9b.1947)

A shipwreck in the late 1700’s is said to have brought my Scottish-born ancestors to the shores of Island Harbour on the British isle of Anguilla, located in the Caribbean Sea.  Three brothers with the surname Webster were said to be the only survivors of an English warship that was returning to England from the island of Grenada.  It seems that war was not their final destiny. 

Apparently, they accepted their fate and made this island their new home, marrying women of Irish and English descent whose families had previously colonized this part of the island. 

For a long period, Island Harbour was known as "Webster's Yard." My great-grandfather, Thomas Alva Webster, was  born and raised in what some refer to as a “white enclave community.”  Although slavery had been abolished in the early 1800’s, there were still marital rules based on family of origin and skin color.   

However, my great-grandfather challenged this practice of endogamy, choosing to marry a woman outside the village of Island Harbour.  My great-grandparents were among the ones to blur the racial lines in this tiny village that is my home of origin.  Their message to me—embrace all persons, love has no boundaries. 

The wisdom of our ancestors reside within us.  We breathe the air they once breathed.  We swim in the oceans that once bathed their bodies.  They are in us as we were in them.  We are the result of their love and the love of those who came before them.  

Could it be that they still walk beside us...unseen, unheard, yet so near that we can almost feel their presence and hear their whispers.  

What might your ancestors be whispering to you right now? Be still. Observe and listen. 

Love to you,

Kathleen O'Malley, Author

August 14, 2014:  
Just today in the town I live in, I noticed a car with bumper stickers that referenced Scotland.  One simply stated, Scotland.  The other read, "Scots are always searching for their roots." :-)

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

What is Your Song/Message/Gift?

Maya Angelou once said, " a bird does not sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song." We all have something to give, a song to sing, a dream to live, a gift to unearth and share.  

What is your song?  What is your unique gift? What is your soul's dream?

The soul's dream is your gift to humanity.  It is that which makes you come alive, allowing you to fully experience this dance we call life.  It is what guides you to where you can best serve in this ocean of Oneness.

Where are you being called to serve?

It was my childhood dream to help create a world free of illness and worry.  I now understand that it is possible to experience incredible healing and worry is something we create in our minds.

Who are we really?

We are sparks of Divinity capable of wondrous acts of love and compassion on this shared Earth.  We are creative beings with infinite potential.  We are one with all creation.  

So why is there so much chaos in today's world?

We have forgotten who we are.  We have created boundaries and hierarchies.  We fear what we do not understand.  We fear that we are not enough.  We look upward and outward for guidance as opposed to looking within.  

What is the solution to the complexities we face?

For each of us to recognize that we are the ones we've been waiting for, to awaken and remember our soul's dream.  

As Andre Rochais once said, "We are asleep on a goldmine, on a wellspring of energy, on a volcano of creativity.  Everything is there, in the hidden corners of humanity, in the interior recesses of men and women throughout the planet."  

Kathleen O'Malley, DC is an integrative wellness practitioner who and has authored two books about personal growth and transformation;  Messages from Children and What They Can Teach Grown-ups (Balboa Press, 2013) and Messages from Within (Balboa Press 2012)  She is currently working on her third book.  She lives in MA with her husband, daughter and their dog, Logan.